Women's Guide to Getting Their Dream Diamond Engagement Ring

How can women get their dream diamondbecome even more determined not to make a
engagement ring when it is the boyfriend makingmistake so they spend the next weeks and
the purchase and wanting it to be a surprise? Tomonths gathering ever fact and opinion they can
find the answer you need to understand yourfind on diamond buying. It is almost like trying to
man's thought process. After all, he is shoppingget a drink from a fire hydrant. There is just too
for a diamond, the symbol of his love for you.much to drink in.
The man shopping for an engagement diamondIt is at this stage of the shopping process men
has three primary shopping priorities:sometimes forget the reason they started on this
1) They want to make a good investmentadventure in the first place. They can lose sight of
2) They want to make you happythe fact that their primary goal is to make their
3) They fear disappointing you or worse yet,girlfriend happy.
rejectionIf you are a woman, by now you are probably
On all three points, men act out of fear of makinggetting the picture. However, you are asking
a mistake. Their pride and desire to surprise theiryourself, what should I do to help ensure the
girlfriend typically prohibit them from asking thediamond of my dreams and the proposal moment
woman's advice. As men so often do, they try toas romantic as I hope?
apply logic to what is a very emotional decision.Here are some suggestions that can help make
Most men attack diamond shopping the same asyour dreams come true:
any other problem they face. They research the1) Do some shopping yourself so you can tell
subject, gather all the facts (often in ayour boyfriend what shape of diamond you like
spreadsheet), and then make a logical decision.best on your finger. Do not leave it up to him to
They assume you will have the same prioritiesguess wrong.
they have so they focus on what will be a good2) If you sense this is going to be mostly a
investment. They seek a high quality diamondsurprise gift, drop some subtle hints about what
fearing that anything less will as somehow implykind of mounting (solitaire, side stones, etc.) you
some lower level of love.want for your diamond. If you do not know, hint
The man's first stop is often the jewelry store inyou want something very simple so he does not
the closest shopping mall. They walk in the doormake an expensive mistake.
and realize they just entered a world foreign to3) If you have a strong preference for the type
them. They look at rings in the display cases andof metal in the ring (yellow gold, white gold,
see more zeros in the price tag than they haveplatinum), find a way to tell him.
seen since they bought their car. Their heart4) If you have the type of relationship that
starts pounding as they realize they have tosupports it, get involved in the diamond buying
spend thousands of dollars on a tiny little rockprocess. There are more couples shopping
they know nothing about, then give it away totogether for the engagement ring now than ever
someone else or worse yet, face rejection.before and the result is often higher levels of
Now their legs are shaking so they decide theyhappiness and lower levels of stress.
need to do more research and do it in a friendlierMany couples now shop together so the
environment. They head home, turn on theboyfriend knows what shape of diamond the
computer, and start searching online for clues ongirlfriend likes, knows what style of mounting she
how to survive the diamond buying process. Theirlikes and then he takes that knowledge to buy
goal is to find a pretty ring their girlfriend will likethe ring on his own timetable and make the
and have a few dollars left in their pocket. Theypresentation a surprise.
feel more comfortable with the discussions of theThe bottom line is your man is trying, to the best
four C's (color, clarity, carat weight and cut)of his ability, to do all the right things to make you
where they can match up those letter gradeshappy. You just need to be patient and try to
with their budget to find some possible options.appreciate the effort he is making on your behalf.
However, with a little knowledge comes theIf you would like to see this diamond gift giving
sinking feeling that there is a whole lot more forrepeated, then by all means tell him how proud
them to learn in order to protect themselvesyou are of his research show him how much you
from making an expensive mistake. Theylove that sparkling diamond on your finger.