| How can women get their dream diamond | | | | determined not to make a mistake so they |
| engagement ring when it is the boyfriend | | | | spend the next weeks and months gathering |
| making the purchase and wanting it to be a | | | | ever fact and opinion they can find on |
| surprise? To find the answer you need to | | | | diamond buying. It is almost like trying to |
| understand your man's thought process. After | | | | get a drink from a fire hydrant. There is |
| all, he is shopping for a diamond, the symbol | | | | just too much to drink in. |
| of his love for you. | | | | |
| | | | It is at this stage of the shopping process |
| The man shopping for an engagement diamond | | | | men sometimes forget the reason they started |
| has three primary shopping priorities: | | | | on this adventure in the first place. They |
| | | | can lose sight of the fact that their primary |
| 1) They want to make a good investment | | | | goal is to make their girlfriend happy. |
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| 2) They want to make you happy | | | | If you are a woman, by now you are probably |
| | | | getting the picture. However, you are asking |
| 3) They fear disappointing you or worse yet, | | | | yourself, what should I do to help ensure the |
| rejection | | | | diamond of my dreams and the proposal moment |
| | | | as romantic as I hope? |
| On all three points, men act out of fear of | | | | |
| making a mistake. Their pride and desire to | | | | Here are some suggestions that can help make |
| surprise their girlfriend typically prohibit | | | | your dreams come true: |
| them from asking the woman's advice. As men | | | | |
| so often do, they try to apply logic to what | | | | 1) Do some shopping yourself so you can tell |
| is a very emotional decision. | | | | your boyfriend what shape of diamond you like |
| | | | best on your finger. Do not leave it up to |
| Most men attack diamond shopping the same as | | | | him to guess wrong. |
| any other problem they face. They research | | | | |
| the subject, gather all the facts (often in a | | | | 2) If you sense this is going to be mostly a |
| spreadsheet), and then make a logical | | | | surprise gift, drop some subtle hints about |
| decision. They assume you will have the same | | | | what kind of mounting (solitaire, side |
| priorities they have so they focus on what | | | | stones, etc.) you want for your diamond. If |
| will be a good investment. They seek a high | | | | you do not know, hint you want something very |
| quality diamond fearing that anything less | | | | simple so he does not make an expensive |
| will as somehow imply some lower level of | | | | mistake. |
| love. | | | | |
| | | | 3) If you have a strong preference for the |
| The man's first stop is often the jewelry | | | | type of metal in the ring (yellow gold, white |
| store in the closest shopping mall. They walk | | | | gold, platinum), find a way to tell him. |
| in the door and realize they just entered a | | | | |
| world foreign to them. They look at rings in | | | | 4) If you have the type of relationship that |
| the display cases and see more zeros in the | | | | supports it, get involved in the diamond |
| price tag than they have seen since they | | | | buying process. There are more couples |
| bought their car. Their heart starts pounding | | | | shopping together for the engagement ring now |
| as they realize they have to spend thousands | | | | than ever before and the result is often |
| of dollars on a tiny little rock they know | | | | higher levels of happiness and lower levels |
| nothing about, then give it away to someone | | | | of stress. |
| else or worse yet, face rejection. | | | | |
| | | | Many couples now shop together so the |
| Now their legs are shaking so they decide | | | | boyfriend knows what shape of diamond the |
| they need to do more research and do it in a | | | | girlfriend likes, knows what style of |
| friendlier environment. They head home, turn | | | | mounting she likes and then he takes that |
| on the computer, and start searching online | | | | knowledge to buy the ring on his own |
| for clues on how to survive the diamond | | | | timetable and make the presentation a |
| buying process. Their goal is to find a | | | | surprise. |
| pretty ring their girlfriend will like and | | | | |
| have a few dollars left in their pocket. They | | | | The bottom line is your man is trying, to the |
| feel more comfortable with the discussions of | | | | best of his ability, to do all the right |
| the four C's (color, clarity, carat weight | | | | things to make you happy. You just need to be |
| and cut) where they can match up those letter | | | | patient and try to appreciate the effort he |
| grades with their budget to find some | | | | is making on your behalf. If you would like |
| possible options. However, with a little | | | | to see this diamond gift giving repeated, |
| knowledge comes the sinking feeling that | | | | then by all means tell him how proud you are |
| there is a whole lot more for them to learn | | | | of his research show him how much you love |
| in order to protect themselves from making an | | | | that sparkling diamond on your finger. |
| expensive mistake. They become even more | | | | |