The Engagement Ring Of Your Dreams

How can women get their dream diamondbecome even more determined not to make a
engagement ring when it is the boyfriend makingmistake so they spend the next weeks and
the purchase and wanting it to be a surprise? months gathering ever fact and opinion they can
To find the answer you need to understand yourfind on diamond buying.  It is almost like trying to
man's thought process.  After all, he is shoppingget a drink from a fire hydrant.  There is just
for a diamond, the symbol of his love for you.too much to drink in.
The man shopping for an engagement diamondIt is at this stage of the shopping process men
has three primary shopping priorities:sometimes forget the reason they started on this
1) They want to make a good investmentadventure in the first place.  They can lose sight
2) They want to make you happyof the fact that their primary goal is to make
3) They fear disappointing you or worse yet,their girlfriend happy.
rejectionIf you are a woman, by now you are probably
On all three points, men act out of fear of makinggetting the picture.  However, you are asking
a mistake.  Their pride and desire to surpriseyourself, what should I do to help ensure the
their girlfriend typically prohibit them from askingdiamond of my dreams and the proposal moment
the woman's advice.  As men so often do, theyas romantic as I hope?
try to apply logic to what is a very emotionalHere are some suggestions that can help make
decision.your dreams come true:
Most men attack diamond shopping the same as1) Do some shopping yourself so you can tell
any other problem they face.  They researchyour boyfriend what shape of diamond you like
the subject, gather all the facts (often in abest on your finger.  Do not leave it up to him to
spreadsheet), and then make a logical decision. guess wrong.
They assume you will have the same priorities2) If you sense this is going to be mostly a
they have so they focus on what will be a goodsurprise gift, drop some subtle hints about what
investment.  They seek a high quality diamondkind of mounting (solitaire, side stones, etc.) you
fearing that anything less will as somehow implywant for your diamond.  If you do not know,
some lower level of love.hint you want something very simple so he does
The man's first stop is often the jewelry store innot make an expensive mistake.
the closest shopping mall.  They walk in the door3) If you have a strong preference for the type
and realize they just entered a world foreign toof metal in the ring (yellow gold, white gold,
them.  They look at rings in the display casesplatinum), find a way to tell him.
and see more zeros in the price tag than they4) If you have the type of relationship that
have seen since they bought their car.  Theirsupports it, get involved in the diamond buying
heart starts pounding as they realize they haveprocess.  There are more couples shopping
to spend thousands of dollars on a tiny little rocktogether for the engagement ring now than ever
they know nothing about, then give it away tobefore and the result is often higher levels of
someone else or worse yet, face rejection.  happiness and lower levels of stress.
Now their legs are shaking so they decide theyMany couples now shop together so the
need to do more research and do it in a friendlierboyfriend knows what shape of diamond the
environment.  They head home, turn on thegirlfriend likes, knows what style of mounting she
computer, and start searching online for clues onlikes and then he takes that knowledge to buy
how to survive the diamond buying process. the ring on his own timetable and make the
Their goal is to find a pretty ring their girlfriend willpresentation a surprise.
like and have a few dollars left in their pocket. The bottom line is your man is trying, to the best
They feel more comfortable with the discussionsof his ability, to do all the right things to make you
of the four C's (color, clarity, carat weight andhappy.  You just need to be patient and try to
cut) where they can match up those letterappreciate the effort he is making on your
grades with their budget to find some possiblebehalf.  If you would like to see this diamond gift
options.  However, with a little knowledge comesgiving repeated, then by all means tell him how
the sinking feeling that there is a whole lot moreproud you are of his research show him how
for them to learn in order to protect themselvesmuch you love that sparkling diamond on your
from making an expensive mistake.  Theyfinger.